CCF and CCR in 2015 !

Christine Kahm hands me the big check!

Christine Kahm hands me the big check!

The Center for Conflict Resolution is thrilled to be working with the Community Capital Fund (CCF) again this year to engage residents in conflict resolution workshops. The project, “Safe and Connected Communities” brings groups of people from neighborhoods, churches, schools and other organizations together for 6 interactive workshops. The group shares a meal, then explores concepts of Restorative Justice; all parties affected by conflict and harm are included in plans to make things as right as possible moving forward. Other topics include Restorative Discipline, the ‘Think, Listen, Collaborate” process and more. A circle format invites learning and deep connection between participants, forming a core group of individuals who support each other during and after the experience. Participants create a project to take back to their communities, exposing more people to the possibilities that occur when conflict resolution skills are used in situations where differences arise.  CCF’s support includes a ‘crowdfunding’ aspect that allows everyone to take part in realizing the goals for the project. Find the easy link on the sidebar for Safe and Connected to learn more about the project and help us fund the project! CCF matches your donation for twice the impact!

Welcome to the Peace Party!

Grandmothers Against Gun Violence Join the Peace Party!

Judy Sherry and Susan Blaney

Judy Sherry and Susan Blaney

Judy Sherry and Susan Blaney were strangers until they were drawn together by their shared concern about gun violence. The co-founders of the Kansas-Missouri chapter of’Grandmothers Against Gun Violence’ (GAG) state that they are not against guns per se, but want to raise awareness about gun violence.

In October, 2014, Ms. Blaney contacted me to ask if I would consider speaking at their monthly meeting. Their membership was interested in hearing ways to talk respectfully with people they do not agree with. My answer was “absolutely”.  At the Center for Conflict Resoluition we know that the skills for ‘listening to hear and talking to be heard’ are the same no matter what the topic or situation.

On November 10th, I presented to more than 70 members of the local chapter of GAG, affiliated with the Heartland Coalition Against Gun Violence. The questions that followed confirmed that they understand the value of and the necessity to open conversations between people who disagree, in public, on social media and at the kitchen table. Position vs. Interest, ‘I’ language instead of ‘You’ language and Open Ended Questions help to encourage incrimental shifts in perspectives.

The other invited speaker for the evening was newly re-elected Kansas Legislator Melissa Rooker.   Ms. Rooker talked about ways to have an impact with leaders and answered questions about current concerns in the state government.  I attended a seminar at the Kansas State Capital Building in Jefferson City last summer, made posible by the Health Care Foundation of Greater Kansas City , and presented the 3-3-1 tool for talking to legislators; 3 points, 3 minutes, 1 page. Ms. Rooker confirmed the helpfulness of that approach.

That evening I saw evidence of an emerging attitude from ‘win-lose’ to ‘win-win’ and ‘learn-learn’. Many people are beginning to pursue collaboration on important issues in their community. Welcome to the Peace Party!


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STAR Instructors  David Anderson Hooker and Elaine Zook Barge

STAR Instructors
David Anderson Hooker and Elaine Zook Barge


In May, 2014, I had the privilege of attending the ‘Strategies for Trauma Awareness and Resilience’ (STAR) course at Eastern Mennonite University (EMU) in Harrisonburg, Virginia. I re-connected with Center for Justice and Peacebuilding (CJP) staff, who I love and admire from my graduate school days, and absorbed wisdom and knowledge from 2 experienced instructors and practitioners, David Anderson Hooker and Elaine Zook Barge. The class roster included 25 colleagues from around the world, several of whom came from countries that were, at that very moment, experiencing war. Some came from countries where equal treatment for women had yet to become part of the conversation. Some of the participants were Mennonite and one was ex-military. We all shared at least 2 commonalities, a personal experience of trauma and the desire to learn from each other.

During the 7 intense days of class, we studied cycles of trauma, symptoms of unhealed trauma, and “interrupting the transmission of woundedness” (James O’Dea, Cultivating Peace, 2012). We explored Truth, Mercy, Peace and Justice, through an exercise that personified those complicated concepts, and participated in a distress exercise that involved walking with a stone in our shoe. Throughout each enlightening, engaging and sometimes exhausting day I became, not only better at my job, but a more compassionate person.

CJP has created a world community that welcomes all people and a learning experience that demands engagement and growth. The Center for Conflict Resolution – Kansas City (CCR) is one of the many offshoots of the CJP community. CCR’s Conflict Resolution and Restorative Justice training and programs model what we have internalized from our time at CJP. To learn more about the Center for Justice and Peacebuilding go to To learn more about the Center for Conflict Resolution in Kansas City go to

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